Orphan Hosting Through New Horizons for Children

I'm a regular follower of Kelly's Korner, a popular blog written by a girl here in NWA.  I don't know her, but we have several friends in common, and her blog is always such an encouragement to me as a mom, wife, a follower of Christ.

Today on her blog, Kelly is hosting a link-up to talk about your favorite charity.  I thought it could be a great opportunity to share a little about New Horizons for Children, the organization we hosted our sweet girls through this past summer, with all of her readers.

Until about 2 years ago, Matt and I had never heard of orphan hosting.  We had no idea it was possible.  I hear that so often from people when I tell them about our experience, too.  So hopefully, this will help get the word out there for more people to share their home and their family with an orphan (or two, or three!)

New Horizons for Children is an orphan hosting ministry based out of Atlanta that brings orphans from Eastern Europe to spend 4-5 weeks in American homes during their summer or Christmas breaks from school.  (There is also a pilot program launching for China in 2013!)

NHFC is a non-profit that works with Eastern European orphanages to give hope to the forgotten kids in their countries - mostly children over the age of 8 or sibling groups - the "hard to place" children.  A team of individuals tied to NHFC travels to the orphanages twice a year to interview perspective children for hosting.  They look for children who, despite the hard times and tough things they have had to face in their short lives, possess a quality of resiliency that helps them move beyond their circumstances to still enjoy life.  They look for children who still thrive academically, still have a sense of humor and laugh at themselves, still look out and care for others in light of everything they have experienced...children who would merge into a family well.

Many of the children who participate in the program end up adopted, either by their host family or a family they meet while in America.  To be clear, though, NHFC is not an adoption agency.  Adoption, or the potential for adoption, is never discussed with the children, either.  The children look at the program as a chance to see America, work on their English, and take a break from life at the orphanage.  It's a chance for them to see how a real family operates and loves one another - something most of them have never seen before.  And it's a chance for them to learn about their hope and worth in Christ.  These lessons are essential because as older children, they are on the brink of being on their own.  At age 16, the children "age out" of their orphanage and are forced out on the streets.  As you can imagine, the statics are very bleak from there.  With little life skills and very little hope of technical or educational training, 80% of the kids turn to crime, drugs, and prostitution to survive, and 15% will commit suicide within the first two years.  The idea is that participation in this hosting program will, at least, give them hope for a better life once they leave the orphanage.

My husband, Matt, and I participated as a host family this past summer and were blessed beyond our wildest dreams to share our lives with three amazing sisters.  The rest of the posts on this blog are all about our hosting experience and our current journey to bring our girls home forever.  Please feel free to scroll through all the posts if you are interested to learn more.

My hope is that by sharing this information out, someone else will learn about the program and feel the heart tug that Matt and I have felt.  There are children who are currently available to be hosted for Christmas, and let me just tell you, there are some AMAZING kids available (some of my favorites are the kids featured in this post)!  If this is something you want to learn more about, check out the NHFC website (newhorizonsforchildren.org), or feel free to ask me questions.  You can sign up through the website to actually view the photolisting and bios of eligible children for Christmas hosting.  What better time of the year is there to share God's love and hope with a child than at Christmas?!

I realize that hosting will not be for everyone, but maybe you have the ability to donate a scholarship for someone else who wants to host.  Or maybe neither of those are an option for you, but you can join me in praying for these children.  Whatever the case, that's why I'm sharing what's on my heart.  God is able to do IMMEASURABLY BIG things beyond my imagination, and I trust Him with that!

Pure and genuine religion in the sight of God the Father means caring for orphans and widows in their distress and refusing to let the world corrupt you.  James 1:27

Gratitude, Good News, and Government Approvals

I wanted to start out by extending a big "thank you" to everyone who prayed for, shared about, and participated in our $10 on 10/10 donation drive.  We are so humbled by the donations, including those from people who have never met us.  We still have many financial hurdles to clear throughout this journey, but it's so exciting to see the Lord providing in HIS way every step of the way.

Several people have asked me if it's too late to give.  The answer is, "no." :)  You can still access our fundraising account through the yellow "Donate" button in the top right corner of the page.  

I also wanted to share a great bit of news from S*, the middle sister of the "big girls."  I was able to chat with all the girls on Monday morning via Skype.  S* was busy when the call started, so she joined in a little late, but the first thing she said when she got on the screen was, "Mama, guess what?!  I have a friend!"

Friendship has been a big prayer of ours for S*. Over the past couple of years, her classmates at school haven't been the friendly type.  In fact, by all accounts, they are just plain mean.  I was heart broken this summer when I offered to help S* pick out some treats to take back to her closest friends, and she told me that she didn't have any.  No mommy ever wants her child to feel lonely.  So we have prayed for a nice girl that S* could build a friendship with, and sure enough, a girl transferred to her school just last week, and now my girl has a friend!  Praise the Lord!  I don't think she could have ever known just how heartwarming and encouraging that news was for me!  In fact, I had to fight back my tears because silly S* likes to tease me for crying about "little," happy things.  Oh, if she only knew!

We are pressing on in our journey.  A new round of paperwork was dropped in the mail on Monday seeking US Immigration approval for our adoption.  Will you pray with us for favor in the timing of the approval?  They tell you to allow 90 days for approval but typically run a little faster than that at about 60 days.  We've heard of a few people recently who have gotten their approval in 30 days...so we are praying for that timing, too!  Once we have this approval, we can send all of our paperwork to the girls' country, and even better, we can FINALLY tell them about the adoption at that point.  I'm so anxious for that day!

Thanks again for your partnership on this journey.  Your prayers and support for these precious girls are much appreciated!

$10 on 10/10

As part of our fundraising efforts, we are hosting a donation drive this Wednesday.  We are using the cool date on the calendar, 10/10, to inspire a theme for giving - $10 on 10/10.  

If you would like to participate in our donation drive, just click the "Donate" tab in the top, right corner of the screen.  All donations will be processed through our Paypal fundraising account.

Even if you aren't in the position to give, would you consider praying for those who will and/or sharing this post out with your friends and family through Facebook, Twitter, or email?  While $10 by itself may not seem like a lot of money, it could add up quickly if a lot of people get involved!  

Regardless of how you participate, we appreciate you joining us in the journey to bring the big girls home.  We're excited to see how the Lord provides for his plan!

(If you are new to our blog, scroll down to catch up on our story.  Thanks for visiting!)

Garage Sale Success!

I just wanted to post a quick update to celebrate a successful garage sale this weekend.  It was cold and windy, and we dodged sleet and rain off and on, but we still managed to sell A LOT of stuff!  We are so grateful to all of you who donated items for us to sale, all of you who helped us get ready for the big day, and all of you who dropped by to see us (including the magic coffee fairies who warmed me up with a yummy cup of pumpkin goodness!)

  

We couldn't do this without the love and support of all of you around us.  So please know just how thankful we are!

Seeing Things

You may not believe this, but I saw Jesus last Wednesday night.  Before you start looking for the number of your favorite psycho therapist, this Jesus sighting was much more of the metaphorical kind and less of the 'hey there's an Anglo-Saxon looking dude with long, straight sandy blonde hair walking down the street in a white robe' kind.  (As an aside, I know that physical description isn't very accurate, but I blame the drawings and paintings seen early in life for my bad mental image.  Truth be told, you probably were right there with me until that last sentence.)

Anyway, back to the story.  As it turns out, Jesus looks an awful lot like you and me.  He may be wearing khaki shorts and a polo, yoga pants and a t-shirt, or Nike slacks and a crisp button-down.  It's not so much what he's wearing, but much more about what he's doing.  

You see, Natalie and I are part of a community group (small group from our church), and they were the hands and feet of Jesus Wednesday evening.  They loved us without self regard and with little hope of gaining anything in return.  We had a garage sale this weekend and were blessed with a ton of great things to sell, but managing and pricing all the items was a bit overwhelming due the enormity of God's blessing.  Because they are diligently in our lives, they knew this garage sale was to help raise funds for the adoption of three precious sisters.  So, they decided to use the normal community group meeting time to come help, and help they did.  In a few hours time, the group accomplished what would have amounted to several nights worth of hard work for Natalie and I.

Keep in mind that these people are busy with many things of their own, and paid babysitters to watch children so they could help us who little deserve it.  They have plenty of other things that could have filled that time.  In the end, the help is much appreciated and a great burden eased, but the truly striking thing is the love and vision demonstrated.  That these friends would set aside their lives to be a part of loving us and our sweet orphaned girls, is a rare thing.  That they did it all to be a part of showing God's glory in this broken world makes it a holy act.  Here's to the love of Christ seen through the actions of others.  May my life speak a testimony as strong as this!

"And the King will answer them, 'Truly, I say to you, as you did it to one of the least of these my brothers, you did it to me.'" Matthew 25:40

Our Summer in Retrospect

(originally posted by Matt Sept 2012)

So those of you who check in more frequently than we post are likely wondering how this summer went. Well we've finally made some time for an update, but be careful what you ask for. The long and short of it is that this summer was an amazing, grace-filled time that will be cherished in our family for a very long time. 

 To start, I must express our deep sense of gratitude and blessing at the great kindness and fierce love that was showered on our entire household. We are supremely blessed to have friends and family who mirror God's character so well. What wonderful image bearers surround us!

 Now that even I'm thinking I should get on with it, we had the best time with Z*, S*, & V* this summer. Please don't misunderstand, there were plenty of challenges and growth opportunities for all concerned. But the overwhelming sense of things was that it just worked, and worked well. Those precious girls didn't take long to steal our hearts, and it's even possible that we stole a bit of theirs too (at least our babies did).

When processing this time, Natalie and I came back to two things over and over; how quickly and completely our hearts were captured, and how great is the grace of our God that everything worked as well as it did. So, not only were we able to watch movies, play games, and go hiking, but substantial conversations were had along the way. Because of the quick connection, we believe love and grace were spoken into the deep places within the girls. These truths have just been seeded, but that in itself is progress. 

All this to say that life with five "kids" quickly became normal, and being a small family again seems strange. We didn't expect the quiet of the house to often be more haunting that peaceful. As it turns out this summer may have changed our hearts as much as it did the girls'. So, Natalie and I couldn't be more convinced that these girls are meant to be a part of our family. We are excited to invite you to join us on this beautiful mess of a journey to bring them back home forever. Look for more along these lines in the near future.

More on the Girls

(originally posted in April 2012)

I wanted to fill everyone in on some details about the three sisters who we will be sharing our summer with.  As Matt posted previously, we will be hosting the girls in our home for five weeks this summer.  They will arrive June 28th and return on August 2nd.  We are SO ready for them to be here!

We aren't certain which girl is which in the picture above, but we think Z* is on the far right, S* is in the middle, and V* is on the left.  Z* is the oldest and will turn 14 just before she arrives.  She loves arts and crafts and likes to sew.  I'm already brainstorming craft projects for us!  She likes to run and swim, and her favorite animal is a horse.  Black & blue are her favorite colors, and she loves to eat lasagna.

  S* is the middle sister, and she will turn 13 right after the girls return back from their trip here.  Her favorite class is PE, and her favorite colors are pink, black, and red.  She loves little kids (that should come in handy!) and wants to learn to talk to dolphins.  Her favorite food is pizza.

V* is the youngest sister.  She recently turned 11.  She sings in the choir and enjoys painting.  Her favorite sport is the long jump, and her favorite animal is a whale.  Black & white are her favorite colors, and she loves to eat mashed potatoes.  She would like to learn to play the flute.

The girls currently live with a foster family.  Their country is trying to move to a foster system similar to America's, and our girls are fortunate to have been placed in a home rather than an orphanage.  It's possible that they did spend time there before their foster family, though.  We don't know anything about where they live exactly or what their living situation is like.  We also don't know much about their background or how long they have been orphans.

One of the most popular questions we get is, "do they speak English?"  They've come to America through this program a few times before, so they've picked up conversational English along the way.  Z* also takes English in school, so we are told she is helpful in translating for her sisters.  Otherwise, we'll use translation apps and charades to communicate.  We hear that every family kind of just develops their own language.  I think that will be fun!

When most people hear that the girls have come to America before, they wonder why they haven't already been adopted.  Rest assured that all the other families have LOVED these girls.  They just haven't been in the position to add 3 more children to their family, which is understandable.  We've heard great things about them and can't wait to share our home with them!

Please continue to check back to learn more about the girls as we do.  We'll keep this updated throughout our summer adventure!

Plans for the Summer?

(originally posted by Matt on March 2012)

It's about this time of year when the people around you begin asking, "What are your plans for the summer?" The answers might range from traveling for children's sports teams, going to the lake, or even visiting Disney World. You likely don't expect to hear, "We're hosting 3 orphan sisters from Eastern Europe." To be honest, neither did we. That is until God showed us something so much bigger than the Magic Kingdom (no offense, Mickey, we still like you).

Before I go on, let me introduce myself. I'm a husband, father, worker, outdoor enthusiast, and Razorback fan seeking to faithfully follow Jesus Christ. Natalie and I have been married for nearly 4 years and have 2 wonderful kids.

Now that we've been introduced, back to the story. As I was saying, a couple of years ago hosting orphans for the summer wasn't on our radar. In fact, we didn't even know it was possible. Don't get me wrong, our hearts have always been soft toward the orphan and adoption. In premarital counseling, we even talked about the possibility of adoption someday, but the thought didn't progress much further than that. Throw in 2 kids, jobs, a house, and the other stuff of life, and orphan care was simply an idea that we liked. But God had other plans.

And so we are hosting 3 sweet sisters this summer through New Horizons for Children. It didn't happen overnight, but little-by-little God began to show us that His heart for the orphan is written throughout the entire Bible. He showed us how we were spiritual orphans, and adopted at a great price. The more we learned the more tender our hearts became (let's be honest, I'm talking about my heart because everyone knows Natalie is one of the most compassionate people ever). Then all of a sudden, orphan care wasn't an idea to be agreed with, but 3 little girls who just want hope, a home, and to be shown love. Our hope for this summer is that our hosting these girls will be a reflection of the greater story of the redemption of all things to them, to us, and to those around us.

We are excited for this journey to unfold, and to see crooked paths made straight by the Lord. Please stay tuned for upcoming posts that detail how our family's story intertwines with that of V*, S*, and Z*.